Friendship, relationship, love, courtship, marriage, being one with your spouse?what does it mean to you? What does it mean to your partner? Building a foundation, what is it built on? From your evaluation, which of the following words would you describe your relationship is built on? Is it under the heading of a relationship that is built on trust or lies, uncertainty, misconception, an illusion, a fantasy, blackmail, a minefield, or is it as solid rock or in sinking quicksand? Is it a relationship that will make you soar as high as the eagles, or are you scaffold around a building or a prisoner doing time in a relationship that strips you of your dignity, your identity, your ambition, and the life you wanted? It could be even worse?a relationship that you are seeing yourself being buried alive without any hope of being saved? Now you tell me, is this the concept of love, courtship, and marriage? Is your relationship like playing golf? Guess what, you are the balls being hit. Did I say hit? Yes, all over the place, and sometimes the place is not green grass. Is your relationship described as being in a torture chamber and you are the one being experimented on? You are the study subject for research in fear, tears and screams, dismemberment, known and unknown theories of abuse, and how well inflicting pain is measured. Can it be described as going to a fun park, heaven on earth, and they lived happily ever after? The choice you make for this lifelong decision will determine whether you will live in heaven or hell, or in a prison or paradise.